Today's post is a downer. And an upper. If you don't want to ride on a rollercoaster today, click on another blog please. Last warning.
Today is about something of substance. Something that really matters. Something from someone else, actually. From the family of a little girl who lost her struggle with cancer last year.
I have seen a bunch of adults whine about "she said this" and "he said that." Heck, on Thursday's post, I talked about not being able to have children right now. Boohoo, cry me a river. Wallowing in self-pity seems too comfortable right now.
In early October 2004, Olivia and her family were given a diagnisis: diffused pontine glioma. Sounds Greek to me. Actually, it is probably Latin. What is means to this family is that Olivia's prognosis was not good – three to twelve months to live because of a type of brain cancer. She was lifted to heaven by the grace of God on November 18, 2004. I don't do death well, I never have. I just say the most awkward things – I hope this did not sound that way.
She had a party on November 13, 2004, and she died less than a week later. Don't cry for this sweet girl – I have cried enough for her the last few days. I did not know the family, did not know anyone associated with her. But I weep for this child.
Wendy, Olivia's mother, will be in the Dr. Phil audience on December 8 (not sure if it will be about her or about others). Wait, I am missing the point. The point is not for me to tell you this story or to cry, or to whatever. The point is that Wendy or Olivia – who knows where one person ends and another begins sometimes – has a message. And this message is nice, not new, but nice. And being original is not all that important - its how it changes your part of the world.
Their page is here, if you want to learn more about them. Their message is like that movie, Pay It Forward. It is easy – do something nice, very nice – for someone and when they ask what they can do in return, grin and say, "Do something nice for someone else." Little do they know that they have already repaid the debt in how you feel. It is a simple formula.
And here is the wonderful part – you do something wonderful for someone else, you feel good (more happiness in the world), they feel good (again, more happiness in the world), and if they do something for someone else (still, more happiness in the world). We think of things as finite – only so many pieces of the pie are available to be had. Better get me mine before you get my piece. I don't think the world works like that. I think we can bake more pies.
Guess who just placed herself on the bone marrow transplant registry? Peace, in this giving season. Do something nice for someone you don't know - or it you really want to grow, do something nice for someone you hate.
Oh and visit Olivia's site - you can even get materials for paying it forward. I have spent many days going through Caring Bridge pages - some couragious people.