Tuesday, October 04, 2005

Queen of Spades

I need to take a deep breath before starting this blog entry.

You see, this issue is personal to me. I mean, I touched on it recently, but I did not really go into it that much. Nervous babbling.

Okay, I did mention that I normally don't really find quickies all that exciting. My hubbie does – not rocket science since it takes me 20 minutes to get fully going, and him two minutes before blast-off. Not really, but pretty close.

So anyway, we have a problem. I love long lovemaking sessions, and occasionally, he just wants to get laid. And he is not all that concerned for me getting off as well (time constraints and all). So we developed a technique that has really helped things – and you probably have all of the materials necessary to do this at home yourselves.

Drum roll, please. All you need is a deck of cards, particularly one that does not have 52 cards in the deck. Remember that deck that you keep forgetting to throw away? Grab it. And take a card – I wanted the Queen of Hearts (predictable, I know). Had to settle on the Queen of Spades (works better actually, think about it).

Here is the deal in my household. I like oral sex . . . I really like it. So when my hubbie satisfies me, I give him the Queen of Spades. Then he has his quickie card. The deal is this – he presents me with the card, and he gets a quickie immediately. The only ground rules are that we don't perform in front of others, and he licks me a little first (for lubrication). That's it. And it works great. I don't worry about helping him cum (he can do this all by himself), and he doesn't have to think, "now I have to spend another 20 minutes pleasing her."

And sometimes it is even exciting.

One morning, I was brushing my teeth in the bathroom, and I hear hubbie get up. I figure he is coming to the bathroom for his morning pee (remember, we are an "old married couple"), and he just places the Queen of Spades on the sink. He takes my panties off, me still brushing teeth, and licks me wet (takes probably one minute or less). I rinsed and spit while he was doing this, and grabbed the sink while he satisfied himself. It was actually quite hot.

We actually lost the card once, and my hubbie buys another deck for the Queen of Spades. I don't play cards as much as I used to, but when I get the Queen of Spades in my hand, my heart skips a beat. Imagine that.

21 comments:

Ddot the King said...

Leesa this is a great idea!!! I think it would add spontaneity to a relationship. I'll be introducing this to someone soon! And as always I'll tell her it was my idea! Thanks L!

Leesa said...

ddot: I understand. When I introduce new techniques in the bedroom (or kitchen), my hubbie tends to be turned off by the comment "I picked this tip up from this guy."

kathi said...

I love this. I've been married for 21 years this month (who'd have ever thought?!?) and you go through phases...hot, warm, hot...without...warm. Without some imagination, it could get boring as hell.

Brea said...

Relationships are all about compromise - very creative.

Ddot the King said...

LMAO @ "I picked this tip up from this guy." Yeah I'm sure that would stop me in my tracks!!!

halo said...

That is an awesome idea, may have to start that little card game at my house. ;)

Hernesto G said...

if you get the Ace of diamonds do you get to sit on his face?

"Sientate en mi cara y hazme sudar!"

Jim Buggz said...

Thats pretty creative ;D
I wonder if it upped your frequency too . . . daily quickies from cards earned the night b4?

Leesa said...

jim: the frequency increased expodentially. Much, much, much more wife getting her oral. And many more quickies. For a while, we were probably averaging 6 times/week. Now only about 4 times per week (quickies and oral, not counting long bouts), when it was probably twice per month plus the normal sex.

Hernesto G: I sit on his face regardless.

muse: love the tatoo pic

ddot: you would say, "I got this tip from this chick"; then see how icy a place can get, aside from using the now uncooth word "chick".

brea: you can try a variation on the theme as well.

Classy Diva said...

I think that is great. I am far from marriage ( I think) but that is one idea I will remember.

LoreliaGilmore said...

shit maybe i would still be happily married if i had read that ages ago, too bad so sad for me i guess.

ken said...

best thing ive read today leesa....cool idea....will share this with my friends whose hubbies or bfs are less than satisfying...i love having a gf who likes it as i do...sometimes slow, simmering, exploring, kissing for ever....then the thrill of intense passion unleashed...one of our funnies has me loving her this past weekend...guess it went too long....i am loving the rhythm, and next thing i hear are snores....have been given ok to do what i want....so....whats a guy to do...smiling! love this idea of yours!!! " The Card Game" will introduce at our party in 2 weeks, when we typically play adult pictionary....thanks for the smiles

Samantha said...

Very hot! I've always wondered how couples keep their sense of adventure regarding the bedroom. Good tips!

Long Iron said...

What ever way you can keep passion in a marriage can only be a plus.It sounds like you and your husband have great sexual chemistry.

~Deb said...

Hmmmm...... Speaking 'as a lesbian' here........... oral is a wonderful thing. A woman knows...what a woman wants. ;)

However, it seem to be you found yourself a very rare man!

Good going! :)

Hernesto G said...

I keep the spice in my marriage by cheating on my wife bi-monthly with this one stripper.

midwest_hick said...

lmao.....now thats called compromising in a marriage.

The Seeker said...

I love this idea... Hmmm... How to incorporate into a non-marriage relationship... oh, wait, need to find the woman first. Currently just dating around. :-)

Slut Betty said...

That's an awesome idea Leesa :-)

Rell said...

wow that's some good stuff

Advizor said...

This is a great idea. One of many you have shared.

My wife offers quickies, but doesn't enjoy them, so maybe this is a way to help her get what she wants and relieve me of my "quickie guilt."

Since this is an older post, I have to ask, are you still using this idea? Have your preferences changed since then?

:-)